A Basotho Wedding

We drove up to the mountains to the town of Teyateyaneng (quite a mouthful, I know. Everyone calls it TY) and then branched off on to a narrow road to the village of Ha Mohatlane. Brilliant African skies canopied over us and, as you can see from the picture, massive chunks of pure white clouds rested against the horizon, like elephants in afternoon siesta.

We were on time but like all weddings, things were nowhere near ready. The bride’s wedding dress hadn’t arrived from the shop that rents it for 2500 Malutis. The guests were trickling in. Smell of fresh vegetables being cooked over slow fire was wafting out of a window.

So we decided to explore.

We walked around, looking at the traditional Basotho hut where Mohtalane’s mother stays even today, the tent erected for the ceremonial feast with its rich decoration and the kitchen where beef, chicken, beans, vegetables, salad, rice, maize meal ‘pap’ and desserts were being readied.

Now, the Basotho hut is being very slowly but surely nudged out from Lesotho’s landscape by modern construction. But it is a marvel in itself, this Basotho hut is; its roof is a strong weave of grass that keeps the inside cool during summers and traps heat during winters. Not a drop of water seeps through it, Mohatlane tell me. And you need to change the grass only once in 20 to 30 years.

The weddings here are a two-part ritual; in fact, it is two weddings rolled into one! On Day One, the wedding takes place at the girl's place - church function, speeches and a grand feast. All the main relatives and friends of the groom travel to the girl's place - as this lot did to Mafeteng. They return home that evening with the bride and a couple of her relatives. We met the two sisters who had accompanied the bride.

On Day Two, it is the groom's family's turn to get into the act and another wedding ensues - church, speeches, a photo session and a feast fit for kings.

I met all of Corporal Mohatlane's people - his mother (we chatted, even though I don't know enough Sesotho and she is not familiar with English beyond a word or two!), sisters, wife, children (seen in a picture) and friends. And, of course, we met the groom – Corporal Mohatlane's younger brother – and the bride. We took pictures. Everything looked exotic to us. I am sure we looked no less exotic to everyone else.

The bride looked vivacious and radiant in a flowing wedding dress. During the photo-session (held at Blue Mountain Resort at TY to obtain a backdrop befitting a wedding), she laughed and giggled while the groom looked subdued, even puzzled. In one photo setting, he was made to lie down by her feet. The closest I have seen ‘another ones bites the dust’ in action! So what was on his mind?

Not the dowry. The ‘dowry’ is called 'lobola' and it is paid by the boys’ people to the bride’s family. The initial 'lobola' for this wedding was agreed for 25000 Maluti or Rs 1.5 Lac! And later they might have to pay another installment of the same amount!

Manish charmed many with bits of Sesotho (‘O shabahala hantle’ or ‘you look pretty’, ‘khotso bo n’tate’ or ‘May peace be with you revered gentlemen’ and ‘O phela juang me?’ or ‘How are you Lady?’). I chipped in too.

And I looked at the flowers and wondered if ‘rose’ can ever be any different in any language?